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Two whole months stateside! It sounds like a nice break, but in reality I was as on the go as ever trying to make the most of my time at “home” — and this is just a fraction of the full four and a half months I was in the US. A lot of what went on during these months didn’t make it onto the blog, so this roundup is even more behind-the-scenes than usual.

Many of you noticed my last roundup was fairly emotional, with several stressful events punctuating the usual bouts of bliss. These two months were a continuation of that theme. While I was thrilled to be back in the arms of my nearest and dearest and soaking up every second with my favorite people, I was plagued by stress over work and money, and heartbroken by the loss of a dear family friend.

Albany, New Yorkhometown happiness

Where I’ve Been

The short answer:

• 42 days in New York
• 14 days in California
• 4 days in Nevada
• 2 days in Pennsylvania

The long answer:

• 3 days in Anaheim / California
• 4 days in Marina del Rey / California
• 3 days in Palm Springs / California
• 4 days in Palo Alto / California
• 7 days in Albany / New York
• 8 days in New York / New York
• 2 days in Philadelphia / Pennsylvania
• 3 days in Albany / New York
• 4 days in Las Vegas / Nevada
• 8 days in Albany / New York
• 7 days in New York City / New York
• 9 days in Albany / New York

Californiacalifornia dreamin’

Highlights

• Falling in love with Disney! I was not expecting to enjoy my weekend in Anaheim nearly as much as I did — favorite moments included sipping cocktails at Trader Sams, tearing up at World of Color, and geeking out on the Little Mermaid and Alice in Wonderland rides.

• Toasting to Amy and Jordan tying the knot in Palm Springs — with a shot of whiskey at the ceremony. Almost even better? The pool party at The Ace the next day. I largely planned this entire period around being able to attend this wedding and it was so worth it.

• California quality time. After months on the move, I was craving my people. Spending the wedding weekend with my Brooklyn girls Liz and Zoe was overwhelmingly perfect, hanging with my Cali hosts Lindsay and Abby was blissful, and meeting up with friends old and new in the Bay Area was seriously fun.

• Finally getting San Fran’s food snobbery. Abby and I’s culinary tour of the Ferry Building was delicious and enlightening — and brought me into San Francisco for the first time since I was a tween (yup, I said tween).

• Landing in Albany for the first time in six months. You guys know I’ve got some serious hometown pride! I always slip right back in to life here, sneaking out to meet one friend downtown for lunch during the workday, catching yoga with another in the evening. I also love to return and see all the new businesses and buzz cropping up since the last time I was here. Happy days.

• Speaking at Beneath the Sea. Okay, I don’t know if the actual speaking was a highlight, seeing as I was almost physically ill with nerves. But being asked was an honor, and I always love plugging into the dive world for a weekend to see what’s going on in the industry.

• Being back in Brooklyn. It’s almost too easy to see myself restarting my life here. I just fall into the perfect balance, working and working out during the day, and heading out every evening for a revolving routine of drink and dinner dates. There are just so many people I love in this city.

• The funeral of a dear friend. It may seem strange to list a funeral as a highlight, but I can’t emphasize enough how cathartic an beautiful this service was, and how grateful I was to be there to say goodbye.

• Picking up my pup in Philadelphia. Tucker just brings so much joy into my life, and I was so beyond happy to have him as my sidekick for a few months again. Bonus! Brooklyn bestie Zoe popped over to the City of Brotherly Love with me so we could have a mini-reunion with one of our Inca Trail-hiking cohorts who is based there.

• Reconnecting in Hudson. When driving from Philadelphia to Albany I stopped in Hudson, where a family I used to babysit for in Brooklyn has recently relocated. Though I don’t get to see them often they are very dear to me and I’m so excited to make this a regular stopover on my East Coast travels.

• Girl time in the desert. The theme of the month was face time with family and friends, and I got it in spades in Las Vegas with childhood besties Kristin and Liz. While Kristin has remained one of my closest friends over the years, Liz and I hadn’t seen each other in ages, and I loved having her back in my life. And, bonus! My friend Abby happened to overlap weekends as got to meet up as well.

Las Vegasliving it up las vegas style

• Two fun Vegas firsts: my first Cirque de Soleil show and my first Vegas pool parties. I loved them both! Vegas is always a great mix of old favorites, (dinner at STK, drinks at Chandelier Bar, dancing at Tryst!) and trying out new things. This trip was the best of both worlds.

• Doing Easter crafts! I can’t tell you how much fun I had going all out for a holiday again. I baked, I bedazzled, I dressed up Tucker, and I dropped off cupcake surprises for friends around town. It got me very excited about committing to being stateside for Thanksgiving and Christmas again this year.

• Attending New York Travel Festival. I’m not going to make it to TBEX this year, so it was really nice to have the opportunity to connect with industry comrades close to home. It was also just a great excuse to head to NYC for a week and once again binge on hanging out with all my favorite people. I stayed with an old high school friend in Manhattan to give my girls in Brooklyn a break, and we had such a great time regaling his poor girlfriend with stories of the good old days.

• Cinco de Mayo! Albany has all of two Mexican restaurants, but I managed to squeeze a reservation out of one of them with pretty late notice upon my return to Upstate. I had such a good time giggling over margaritas and faux-mustaches — have I mentioned I really like my friends?

Cinco de Mayo in Albanycinco de mayo seriousness

Lessons & Lowlights

• I have never been so behind in work as I was upon landing in California. I woke up every morning ready to burst into tears because I didn’t know how to dig myself out of the hole I was in. Though it was my first time ever in LA I  barricaded myself in my friends’ Marina del Rey apartment and didn’t emerge until it was time to head to Palm Springs. My only consolation was knowing I’ll be back.

• My computer charger decided to flatline upon arrival in Palm Springs, which sent me into a complete panic as I didn’t know at the time whether the issue was with my charger or my laptop and I was hours from an Apple store. So while my friends lounged poolside I spent a frantic afternoon driving around the desert looking for a solution. And then I found out my AppleCare, which would have covered the cost of a new one, expired literally five days before. Not cool, computer charger. Not cool.

• I learned a very valuable lesson about gossip this month. I gossiped about someone who I actually quite like behind their back, which is a hard thing to confess and even harder thing to explain. I guess I thought it was harmless? But it got back to them in a really ugly way, and I was wracked with guilt and anxiety for the better part of a week. Waking up every morning sick to my stomach really radically influenced the way I think about idle gossip and the effect it has on not just the subjects but the people doing it.

• Arriving back to the East Coast in March was unavoidable but not ideal. The weather really weighed on me and reminded me I need to make a more concerted effort to avoid spending these months at home in the future.

• Guys. TAXES. I am not exaggerating when I say I sat on my bed and cried when my accountant gave me my initial tax estimate. This is the first year I made a net annual profit on Alex in Wanderland and wow, I was not prepared to hand such a large chunk of my bottom line over the US government! Nor was I prepared for the amount of paperwork required. It was a huge learning curve and now that I know what to expect and how to properly file, I hope that this will go much more smoothly in the future — and I’ve started putting aside money each month to avoid the sticker shock come tax time.

Philadelphiasilly in philly

• I relearn this lesson on a pretty frequent basis and it never seems to stick: I need to clearly discuss expectations before traveling with others. When we booked a getaway to Vegas, I was expecting one of our typical debaucherous trips, but it turned out my travel buddy was looking for a slightly more laid-back agenda. We had a great time, but some awkwardness on the ground could have been avoided by a quick conversation before departure.

• I spent a lot of time in transit during this period, and I learned a valuable lesson: I am willing to pay to make that time productive. When traveling back and forth between Albany and New York, which I do very frequently, it is worth it for me to splurge on a train over a bus so I can work without motion sickness. And when I’m flying an airline with wifi, I’m going to pay for it. I don’t even feel guilty about it anymore.

• Working from home has so many quirks, and one of my favorites (read: least favorites) is loved ones being irritating by you… working. What is actually office hours for me looks like messing around on a laptop to others, and it can raise tension when family members or significant others feel neglected. I’m lucky that my mom works from home as well so she totally gets it, but I’ve learned that when other family members are around and it’s a workday for me, I need to head to the library or another neutral space so they understand the boundaries of my workday and don’t feel offended that I’m looking at a screen instead of at them.

• The great tragedy of the month made all others feel miniscule: losing someone who was like an uncle to me. I still can’t quite believe Steve is gone, that he now lives in our memories and not in our futures. Rest in peace.

New York Citythe city that never sleeps

LOLs

• In Palm Springs:

Zoe: [Something profound.]
Liz: That literally just gave me chills. [Pause.] Or actually there might have just been a little breeze.

• In Las Vegas:

Liz, explaining why she needed to stop back at her apartment: Kristin… [Big sigh, very somber.] I have cats.
Me: Is it terminal?

Tucker Time!this dog I like

Budget

I spent $4,180 in Months 34 and 35, which breaks down to about $2,090 per month. This was a serious increase over the many months that preceded it — welcome back to the USA!

Budget BreakdownRemember that these numbers reflect two months instead of the usual one these roundups tend to cover. As always, my biggest expense was food, clocking in at $952, or $476 per month. This was actually an improvement over my usual average, likely due to how much time I was spending at home and eating groceries (often provided by my super generous mom). Next up was flights at $710, or $355 per month. That’s not bad when you consider it includes a one-way flight from New Orleans to LA, a one-way flight from LA to San Jose, a one-flight from San Francisco to Albany, and a roundtrip flight from Albany to Las Vegas. I managed to keep the figure low by booking the first flight with American Airlines points, and using Purchase Eraser on my Capital One Venture Card to take care of the second.

Next up was miscellaneous weighing in at $694, or $347 per month. That high figure reflects the fact that I bought a new point and shoot camera and that I do a lot of restocking on essentials once I hit the states. Entertainment weighed in at $632, or $316 per month. More than half of that is my share of the petty cash for our trip to Vegas, which included food, booze, taxis and tips — essentially everything other than our flights and hotel. Not bad for Las Vegas! The rest is made up of my Beneath the Sea pass and nights out. Accommodation totaled $440, or $220 per month, made up equally of my shares of hotels in Las Vegas and Palm Springs. Otherwise I was crashing with friends and family. Transport topped $380, or $190 a month, made up of a mix of gas, cabs, Metrocards, Amtrak tickets, and my share of the rental car to Palm Springs.

I added two new categories into my monthly budgets as they were distorting the other categories. Those are spa and fitness at $182, or $91 a month, including the first real haircut I had in two years as well as some gym and yoga passes, and business expenses at $190, or $80 a month, which includes my charitable donations, web hosting, and Rafflecopter subscription.

Friend Timesome people I love

Work

Month 34 was so slow for advertising that it terrified me, Month 35 was only incrementally better. Thankfully I had a large amount of freelance work both months that kept me afloat — in fact, I managed to net small profits both months, though they were very minor.

I spent a lot of time these months trying to figure out how to diversify my income as my primary source of it — SEO-based link sales — started tanking due to Google algorithm updates. Ultimately I spent a lot of time researching and attempting to implement plans that ultimately failed. It was a scary time where I truly questioned what the future held for me and my business.

New York Travel Festivalwanderlusting at new york travel festival

Health and Fitness

As soon as I touched down on the East Coast I started focusing heavily on getting back in shape after losing my way in Latin America. I couldn’t button up a single pair of jeans in my closet in Albany, which was a teary wake up call. I splurged on a gym pass for one of the weeks I was in Albany but otherwise went running and did workout DVDs, and when I was in NYC I took heavy advantage of the gyms in my friends’ buildings. I discovered that my health insurance covers six annual visits with a nutritionist, and I started seeing one to talk about how I could start shifting some of my eating habits to something a bit healthier. I was on a mission.

I started seeing progress right away, but when I left for Las Vegas I still wasn’t back in those jeans. At this point I was sick of thinking about my body, and I implemented a simple rule: no self-loathing in Las Vegas. Forcing myself not to voice negative thoughts about my appearance for a while was freeing, and I decided to continue the policy.

What’s Next

Two more months of backyard backpacking — traveling around my home country!

Easter in Albanycelebrating easter, wanderland style

It’s been my pleasure having you along while I’m home!

Since I left home for my Great Escape, I’ve been doing monthly roundups of my adventures filled with anecdotes, private little moments, and thoughts that are found nowhere else on this blog. As this site is not just a resource for other travelers but also my own personal travel diary, I like to take some time to reflect on not just what I did, but how I felt. You can read my previous roundups here.

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28 Comments...
  • becky hutner
    June 24 2014

    Hip hip hooray for Monthly Roundups! Tucker is clearly the star of this one. What do you think about packing him for your next international adventure? (you could photograph him gnome-style a la amelie).
    becky hutner recently posted..Fashion ‘Round the World: What people wore in Spring ’14

    • Alex
      June 25 2014

      Ha, I know you meant this in jest but I really wish I could! I wouldn’t ever put him under an airplane though, and he’s too big to come on board. The family is planning a big Key West trip in about a year and I think my dad will drive rather than fly so he can join!

  • Shaun
    June 24 2014

    Still sounds like a roller coaster of emotions! Mortality is very weird to deal with. I still get very mixed emotions and have had difficulty dealing with a close loss before.

    I still can’t get enough pictures of Tucker! Any news on the new site layout?
    Shaun recently posted..Istanbul’s Not So Grand Bazaar

    • Alex
      June 25 2014

      My new designer and I are on it, Skyping almost daily! We had hoped to roll out July 1st but that was a big idealistic. Definitely sometime in July!

  • TammyOnTheMove
    June 24 2014

    I am always shocked by how much tax gets deducted from my salary too. It is so frustrating, but as I once worked for the tax office in the UK, I do know that taxes are very important for the running of the country, which makes me feel better. Not much, but a Little bit. 🙂
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    • Alex
      June 25 2014

      I know, I had a hard time thinking “I only spent three months in the darn country in 2013!” But then I reminded myself that I do come back and drive on roads, I went to public schools, etc. etc. They are a fact of life, I just had to get over that first time shock of self employment taxes! It’s a bit easier to swallow when they are taken out bit by bit automatically from a paycheck.

  • Justine
    June 24 2014

    It’s insane how much your daily budget increases once you get back to the US. I just spent two months back home in California and it was a crazy reminder of just how expensive things are in the States! Also, my condolences about your friend. It’s nice that you were able to be home to say goodbye.
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    • Alex
      June 25 2014

      Thanks, Justine. And yes, I feel you on the budget. Also I do most of my big spending when I’m in the US and upgrade electronics, replace gear, and stock up on toiletries and whatnot. It’s easier to take when it is spread out over a year!

  • Jason
    June 25 2014

    Tucker is absolutely adorable. How can you even bear to leave him for such lengthy chunks of time?

    I feel you so hard on the quirks of working at home–the worst part about it for me is I’m convinced my family thinks I work a lot less when I’m traveling and that I just take on a ton of extra work to keep myself from getting bored when I am at home…and then there are the friends I love who I insist need not (no, must not!) take time off when I visit them because I usually assume I can get at least most of my work done while they are at work so we can play together when they are off and who invariably surprise me by taking time off work. I feel that gives me two options: 1) work like I told them I would have to do and feel the tension mount as their “wasted” vacation days while away or 2) spend their waking moments with them and work all night long, transforming into a significantly less pleasant and present version of myself.

    Also, I really respect how you call yourself out on things you do that you think or realize are just not cool, like the gossiping about a friend whom you cherish that you mentioned in this post. Way to remind readers that we all have flaws and weaknesses that we can learn and grow from, in spite of the strengths and successes (of which it seems you have a multitude!) that may lift us up and benefit the communities we are a part of/identify with.

    • Alex
      June 25 2014

      I’ve definitely been in that situation with friends as well. I generally try to remind myself that the thing I love about working for myself is the flexibility it gives me, and do what I can to spend time with my friends, who I rarely get to see anyway. But it is a very difficult situation, especially when doing back to back visits with many of them!

  • Sorry about the death of your family friend that is rough :/
    Taxes sound scary! To be honest, my mom has always done them for me and since I don’t make much money on the blog and live in India I figured I never had to do taxes… apparently I will have to if I make money- which leads me to: you should totally do a post about how to file taxes as a blogger! because I’m clueless! lol go figure…
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    • Alex
      June 25 2014

      Oh, I could definitely NOT write anything on that subject 🙂 I basically was a mess and just barely got it together with the hand holding of an accountant! There are some pretty good resources out there though specifically for bloggers… I read most of them!

  • Sorry for your loss, I lost my Grandmother this month too which meant I had to take an unexpected trip back to New Zealand. The service was sad but the wake was wonderful. Getting to see family I haven’t seen in years and celebrating my Grandmother’s life was bittersweet. Ouch about the taxes!
    Katie @ The World on my Necklace recently posted..Long weekend getaway to Australia’s famed Blue Mountains

    • Alex
      June 25 2014

      I’m glad you were able to make it back, Katie. When my grandmother died last year I couldn’t get back to the US and it was a very acute sense of loss. Hope you got some closure from being able to attend.

  • Miquel
    June 25 2014

    I really enjoy these roundups. It’s nice to read about how you were feeling behind the blog posts!
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    • Alex
      June 25 2014

      Thank you, Miquel! I enjoy looking back on them as well. It’s a nice reminder of where I’ve been, mentally and physically!

  • Maria from Nerd Nomads
    June 25 2014

    I can totally relate to the health and fitness issues, I too find it difficult to stay in shape while traveling! There are so many tempting treats along the way when it comes to food, and difficult to find time to work out. Did you get any good health tips from the nutritionist?

    Tucker is adorable! Who takes care of him while you travel? My condolences about your friend Steve, so sad.
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    • Alex
      June 25 2014

      My dad takes care of Tucker when I travel, and is always very bummed when I come collect him for the months I’m home! The nutritionist mostly reiterated information I already knew, but the most helpful part of it was bringing in labels of foods I eat regularly when I’m home and having her point out which ones were all clear and which ones weren’t so great. She gave me some good suggestions too, for example when I’m home I often eat Cafe Steamers for lunch (I am a horrible cook) and she said those were actually low in sodium and fine to eat, but suggested I add some fresh steamed vegetables to them to make them more filling. It was a great idea and I can’t eat them any other way now!

  • Janice Stringer
    June 25 2014

    Thank you once again for a fabulous round up Alex. These posts are my personal favourites!
    Have your worked out your business peaks and troughs yet – is there any consistency in the months the work flows in. I know its a very different business but my son’s work is more March to October – quieter through the christmas period. One of his fellow freerunner’s now does panto at christmas as that gets him through the quieter period. Like you say. How do you diversify to keep the business flowing.
    I am so sorry for your loss – its hard when someone we love dies, especially when there is so much going on in a life and I think where you are concerned it shows your character and ability to learn in life – with regards to the gossip. A tough experience but a huge amount of learning about life and being human I think.
    Our western countries are so expensive. I think I am really looking at the cost of things now – even more so when I watch my children grow in their respective chosen areas. I’ve always done it when they were little but as a Parent it can prove unsatisfactorily anxiety provoking at times, watching your kids make their way in life! 🙂
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    • Alex
      June 25 2014

      Thank you Janice! Things are evening out a bit for me now income-wise, but this summer was a scary time! It generally is a bit of a slow period in the business (even web traffic slows down in the summer) but because of all the upheaval with the Google algorithm updates I mention, many feared it was a more permanent slump. And it doesn’t help that I’m in the US during the summers, which is always when I’m spending the most money! 🙂

      • Janice Stringer
        June 25 2014

        Hi Again Alex,
        I was thinking as I walked into town today, how much a person needs to earn, to live well in our ‘developed’ western world. It takes my breathe away – having gained a full understanding of the value of money in my life as a Parent and mother bringing up small children on one wage. it is a huge amount you need to bring in, to be self sufficient in countries such as yours and mine. Its a big responsibility for a person. You always impress me with your maturity which comes across. Although like you say in the above post – you look forward to those debaucherous weekends in Vegas! 🙂

  • “Working from home has so many quirks, and one of my favorites (read: least favorites) is loved ones being irritating by you… working.”

    This is actually one of my biggest worries about our return home in a few days. We intend to use the next few months in Toronto living with my parents as a way to continue to build our graphic design & web design business while living rent-free and therefore rebuilding our travel fund while getting ourselves to a stage of location independence that will allow us to travel full-time, but I am SO worried my parents will see us in front of the computers and assume that we are simply goofing off and not actually working & therefore will throw idle chores and tasks at us to “keep us busy”. I don’t relish sitting down with them and laying some “ground rules” for peaceful cohabitation when we first get back, but I suspect it’s going to be necessary in order to keep the peace. That, and we’ll be looking into nearby coffee shops, libraries, and the like so that this doesn’t devolve into something nasty.
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    • Alex
      June 25 2014

      In my experience, it is not pretty! I would definitely have a conversation right off the bat, which I think you could frame in a really non-threatening way. (“Wow, so much in our life has changed since we were last here! Nowadays, our work schedule looks a little something like XYZ. We’d love to talk about how we can pitch in around the house once we sign off for the night…” or something?) I also really recommend the library route! Coffee shops have nice atmosphere but if you are trying to save up, the cost of all those lattes does add up!

      I have had the issue with significant others where I’m pulling 10-12 hour days and they are working a much more relaxed schedule, and when they come home and are cleaning up I’m still working on a project — and they are insulted that I don’t stop to help. It leads to a lot of hurt feelings on both parts! So I’d also definitely address chores/housework contribution right off the bat with any kind of roommate situation. Good luck, and let me know how it goes!

  • Amy
    June 28 2014

    Interesting round-up Alex; I’m currently back home in the UK for a couple of months visiting friends and family so I can identify with a lot of the points you make. It’s great to be back here but after over a year in Asia, UK prices are shocking! Nothing beats catching up with family, friends and family dogs though 🙂
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    • Alex
      June 28 2014

      Seriously! It’s great to be home and I’m actually quite sad to leave just when the weather is so gorgeous. Le sigh.

  • Richard Adams
    January 23 2017

    Wow! It’s wonderful that you’ve written about your experiences in such great detail. Not many of us get to travel so much. Loved your pie chart of expenses! Good luck on your next trips and looking forward to reading about it.
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    • Alex
      January 31 2017

      Thanks Richard. I love writing these round up posts! They are a lot of fun for me and an easy way to catch up if someone wants to look back on my past travels.

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