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Since I left home last June on my Great Escape, I’ve been doing monthly roundups of my adventures. As this blog is not just a resource for other travelers but also my own personal travel diary, I like to take some time to reflect on not just what I did, but how I felt. I also like to remind myself of moments, incidents and random thoughts that never made it onto the blog! You can read my previous roundups here: Month 1, Month 2, Months 3 and 4, Month 5, Month 6, Month 7, Months 8 and 9, and Month 10.

Tiger Kingdom

So, Month Eleven. It was a doozy. For those of you that are new around here, Month 11 is the one in which my three-year relationship came to an end, and I went from part of a nomadic duo to a solo traveler overnight. It makes for an odd month for a highlights and lowlights list, when all the highlights were shadowed with sadness and all the lowlights were made poignant  simply by the fact that I survived them. But that’s life sometimes. Never in my life have I lived this particular adage so purely.

Emotionally, the journey was epic. But physically I covered a fair amount of ground as well. I said goodbye to my beloved Koh Tao and spent two weeks exploring cities north of Bangkok —  virgin territory for this Thailand lover!

Ziplining in Chiang Mai

Where I’ve Been

• Two weeks in Koh Tao

• Three days in Bangkok

• Three days in Ayutthaya

• Two days in Lopburi

• Six days in Chiang Mai

Diving on Koh Tao

Highlights

• It’s trite but true: when tragedy strikes, you find out who your real friends are. One friend took me in to her home, another checked in on me every single day, another helped me sell off my things, and another dragged me to the gym each afternoon and acted as my personal trainer. I always knew I was part of a special and amazing community on Koh Tao, but never before did I feel it so distinctly. While I wanted to do little more than lay in bed and watch Dexter like a zombie, my friends dragged me out to theme parties, dinners, and to even to Songkran. I’m grateful for that now.

• My last few dives on Koh Tao were epic. At this point I had left my job and so I was simply fun diving with my favorite ladies on the island. Great friends, a sexy new wetsuit, killer visibility and resulting beautiful photographs — what could be better? Of course as I said, throughout this month every moment of happiness had another side — on my very final dive on Koh Tao, my mask filled with tears as I said goodbye to the reefs where my diving journey first began.

• I was shockingly terrified to travel solo again. And so the moment when I arrived in Ayutthaya, having made it there in one piece, by myself, utilizing nothing but two dollars, the kindness of strangers, and public transportation, I was irrationally proud of myself. It was such a pure high in a period of real heartbreak.

• This might sound silly, but this was the month in which I realized I have truly acclimatized to brutal heat. April is the hottest month of the year in Thailand, and some unladylike sweating aside, I survived. I’ll always remember the day that I spent cycling around the ruins of Ayutthaya in the searing sun and returned to my guesthouse to the news that temperatures that day reached 36 °C, or 97°F. Once upon a time that kind of temperature would have left me gasping on the floor on the local 7-11 (air-con central in Southeast Asia) but on that day I had been basically unfazed while I hoofed across an ancient city.

• Everything about my two day stay in Lopburi was a highlight. Seriously, I love this little town. Sweet, small, and teeming with resident monkeys. Name me a more perfect place to pass through en route to Northern Thailand!

• In a similar animal-related vein, the absolute highlight of my time in Chiang Mai (aside from the obvious, hanging out with pals Wim and Dave) was playing with a baby tiger. The adrenaline rush of going face to face with a top predator of the animal kingdom combined with the reflexive awww that comes along with petting baby animals was impossible to top.

Traveling with Friends

Lowlights

• My year simply did not have a lower low than this. I think I’ve said all there is to say on this topic, so I’ll just sum it up as this: my life exploded on that day. But I’m picking up the pieces, slowly and surely.

• I spent so very much of Month 10, back in New York, realizing how much I freaking loved my life in Koh Tao. I had this epiphany of gratefulness, and was kept up at night with excitement about getting back and eating at my favorite restaurants, dancing at my favorite bars, working at the job I loved so much and hanging out with my favorite people. Sadly, life blew up in my face within 48 hours of my return, and things were quite obviously not the same after. Ergo — there were a lot of unfulfilled hopes and a great mourning for the life I loved so much and maybe didn’t appreciate enough until right before I lost it.

• My emotional issues took a very physical toll. I couldn’t eat, and my borderline IBS was making me miserable. Though I suppose the upside of this is I lost all that weight I was whining about — I dropped 15 pounds in a month. On top of that, I was also having serious sleep issues. In fact, what finally pushed me over the edge to book a plane ticket home was a series of near-hallucinatory nightmares I had which left me terrified for nightfall. Here’s a little solo travel tip: refrain from sharing said hallucinatory nightmares with others, unless you would like to spend the next hour explaining that you do not in fact have malaria, and refusing insistent offers to take you to the malaria clinic. Not looking like a crazy person: Fail.

• This is kind of anti-climactic after I  just admitted that I didn’t sleep for three days because there were totally snakes in my bed, but I didn’t really like Chiang Mai. Despite spending time with my wonderful friends and doing some cool stuff like seeing the tigers and ziplining, nothing about the city captivated me. You win some, you lose some.

Fancy Dress Partyyou guessed it: another Koh Tao theme party

The Budget

Despite being an emotional wreck I somehow managed to once again increase my freelance/advertising earnings this month. And lucky that was, because I definitely engaged heavily in the travel equivalent of retail therapy — splurging frequently on massages, expensive cocktails, etc.

Solo Travel

What’s Next!

The final month of Year One of my Great Escape would bring me to a totally new country: Laos!

As always, thanks for following along. It wouldn’t be the same without you, readers!

 

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13 Comments...
  • Vicky
    July 13 2012

    Love these monthly update posts! I’m sure the break up itself was excruciatingly painful but hopefully now that time has passed you’re feeling better about the situation. Very crazy that you lost 15 pounds in 1 month! I haven’t heard much about Lopburi in Thailand so I’ll definitely be checking out those posts to see what it’s all about! Hope you’re having better luck sleeping!
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    • Alex
      July 13 2012

      Thanks Vicky! These posts don’t tend to get many comments so sometimes I think I’m just doing them for myself, ha. Glad to hear someone else enjoys them!

  • Toni
    July 13 2012

    Such a great round-up Alex…it’s great to have the highs but it’s even better to be able to look back at the lows and see just how far you’ve come! I look forward to reading more of your adventures!
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    • Alex
      July 13 2012

      Thanks Toni, that is a great perspective and a wonderful way to look at things!

  • EM | Cubicle Throwdown
    July 13 2012

    I love the round-ups too, especially if I have missed a few here and there! And I hear ya on the losing weight thing girlie – last summer while traveling through Peru with my long-term boyfriend I got super ill, lost 15 pounds in a couple weeks, and then he dumped me the day after we got home and I lost another 15. I like to think of it as the easiest/worst diet ever 🙂
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    • Alex
      July 15 2012

      Wow! That is major weight loss! Shame that it sometimes takes these horrible life events to inspire it, but I’ve really made some great life changes since as I realized I wanted to keep the weight off in a healthy way!

  • Diane
    July 15 2012

    I enjoy the roundups too, like EM said, just in case you miss one. Your blog is one of my favorites and I look forward to it. I hope the rest of the summer has a lot of amazing adventures in store for you and that you get the time to apply to that dive job in Malta!!
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    • Alex
      July 15 2012

      Diane, thank you so much for this! I’ve been working on my application… I really hope to get it!

  • Conni Biesalski
    July 17 2012

    Hey Alex, just spent a few weeks on Koh Tao actually… really enjoyed myself..
    Anyway, I’m writing to just let you know that I know how you feel break-up wise.. My partner broke up with me in May after more than two years as I was temporarily working as an instructor on Gili T (Indo), to sort of get that part of my system one last time. I flew home to Berlin immediately to try and pick up the pieces, but without success. She is living our plans now, a few months in India, followed by moving to Melbourne (she’s Australian and we were gonna get the partner de-facto visa..).
    I am super plan-less, still, and have so no idea what is going to happen next. Spending some time in Thailand was just a distraction after the massive shock.. I’m back home in Germany now, gonna spend the summer in Berlin and hope to figure out what I’m gonna do with my life without having anything, anyone to guide me but myself. So weird.
    I read myself in many of your words. So I guess, just know I’ve been going through a massive break-up shock as well..just like you, being a traveler, a diver and all…
    I slowly feel like it’s getting better, but then there are days where I still can’t believe it. I’m off to a meditation retreat for a week in Austria in a few days…let’s see how I go 😉
    Lots of love and hugs your way, Con
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    • Alex
      July 17 2012

      Hi Conni, I really appreciate you sharing this. There is so much pain in breakups like the ones we are going through, and I think a big part of it is the loss of all the future plans you had made. I’m struggling with that a lot myself, especially the things that just aren’t feasible as a single lady but were totally doable as a partnership.

      I’m trying to cobble together what my year will look like right now, it’s a little stressful! One of the best pieces of advice that I got was basically, it’s going to take time…. no matter what it’s going to take a lot of time. So what really matters is how you choose to spend that time. I’m trying to make the most of it and it sounds like you are too! All the best, enjoy your retreat in Austria and let me know how it goes! I’ll be sending good vibes 🙂

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